Adult Friends

Why are adult friends so hard to find?

I left school and moved to the big smoke to study acting assuming that upon arriving here I would meet cultured people left, right and centre and we would have a great group of 'pals' who would all partying and laugh and hang out together.

This fantasy has not actualised itself. Thus I am at home on a Saturday night, writing a blog, with "Around the World in 80 Days" on in the background (this is possibly the worst film IN THE WORLD).

Here is my problem. I am not an anti-social person. In fact I would refer to myself as an over social person. I adore people to the point of striking up involved conversations with everyone from my waxer to the check out girl. So I in turn believed I would have no troubles making a great group of friends. Just like the ones I left at home.

Please note: I am not looking to replace said wondrous friends at home just find someone to occupy my time here without spending my weekend longingly watching peoples facebook pages and wishing I was back at home attending otherwise boring events.

I have met people here. I just don't 'hang out' with anyone. sob.

At acting school I have met some great people. However no real friendship has emerged. See, we only see each other once a week. This appears to not really be enough to make buds out of people. Also people are always busy, god damn it! When I'm working they are not. When I'm free they are at work. Or so they tell me.

I also have a huge problem with forcing friendships. I don't want to have to chase people down and stalk them to hang around with them. Maybe I should be doing that. I just don't really know how to ask to be friends with someone without taking myself back to my primary school days of requesting friendship so simply with other equally illiterate members of society.

Also, they all have boyfriends. People with boyfriends are useless to me! Utterly useless. In fact, attached people should all be exiled so the rest of us can get on with it without the constant reminders of our singledom.

So after a bunch of group 'dates' with acting people I am still not on terms of going out with some or even one of them outside of school!

Then there is work, oh work, again utterly useless. As a casual employee all my other casual colleagues are uni students. Complete with their own group of uni friends. This would be fine, if someone wanted to invite me to hang out with them...

But here we arise at the problem with adults. They don't do that! They just go about their little secular lives. Here is my question for readers.

How do you break into a friend circle without being desperate?

I am actually at the point of joining a club. However, upon the perusal of the local paper I can only find knitting, mahjong and an under 18's amateur theatre company as my places for friends. Two too old, the other too young.

Now I should just have a Bridget Jones moment- wear penguin pajamas, badly drum along to "All by myself" and start chain smoking...

..and eventually die alone at 300 pounds with a chocolate bar stuck to my face.